Wednesday, April 19, 2017
Wednesday, April 12, 2017
the swap.
*Disclaimer, this is an extremely personal and touchy story that I do not like to discuss much with people that I am not extremely close with, with that being said, any distribution or re-posting without the expressed consent of I, Matthew Powers, is strictly prohibited*
To fully understand the gratitude of my uncomfortable-ness, we need to take a ride for a blast from the past. I started dating my girlfriend when we were 16 in high school. Our entire first year of dating was centered around our parents driving us to see each other. This created a burning desire to see each other more, until we could not go a day without seeing each other, and go a minute (not me)
without texting or snapchatting one another. We continued this path even when we both had our licenses, and all the way until after senior year of high school and into the beginning of freshman year college.
We were inseparable, we had plans for our future together, destinations we wanted to reach, and goals we both wanted to attain together.
Okay, now you have the gist of that relationship, you are about to hear another one including a good friend. We were never ones to hangout alone, but in groups we had great times. We played soccer and baseball together growing up, we were as close as you can get without being close. Well he had a girlfriend that he dated since like 7th grade or something like that, and they were always off and on, in middle school, during period changes the hallways were always filled with 4 minutes of whispering and chaos of drama between them.
Well, LONG story, both couples broke up 2 weeks after my birthday. LOL. Anyway, this is where it gets more juicy than the spread of people magazine. Get ready to sink your teeth into your lips. We swapped romantic interests. However at the time me and my friend did not hangout anymore. But it
was weird ya know? The weirdest thing was, I hooked up with this girl already freshman year of high school, and my girl had talked to my friend in the past. So i guess you can say we were in a love square lol.
This little fling of mine lasted about 3 weeks, before we both decided to end it. She got back with her EX easily.. but me, it was a long egregious process. After an extremely long month and half of trying to amend the bridges burned (I was kind of DB to my EX when I was flinging with the other) I finally succeeding in wooing my ex girl back to me.
I won't deny, the entire process was very uncomfortable.. every last detail and little motion. EVEN till this day, writing this I am uncomfortable, but the best thing to do about insecurities and things we are uncomfortable about is to share them. Once everyone knows, you no longer are hiding it and can no longer feel like you should.
(DESPITE THIS PARAGRAPH^^^^^^^ MY DISCLAIMER STILL APPLIES STRICTLY)
Just to finish this love story, me and my girl from high school are still together, and have been ever since I got her back to me in this story. It will be our 4th year on December 29.
To fully understand the gratitude of my uncomfortable-ness, we need to take a ride for a blast from the past. I started dating my girlfriend when we were 16 in high school. Our entire first year of dating was centered around our parents driving us to see each other. This created a burning desire to see each other more, until we could not go a day without seeing each other, and go a minute (not me)
without texting or snapchatting one another. We continued this path even when we both had our licenses, and all the way until after senior year of high school and into the beginning of freshman year college.We were inseparable, we had plans for our future together, destinations we wanted to reach, and goals we both wanted to attain together.
Okay, now you have the gist of that relationship, you are about to hear another one including a good friend. We were never ones to hangout alone, but in groups we had great times. We played soccer and baseball together growing up, we were as close as you can get without being close. Well he had a girlfriend that he dated since like 7th grade or something like that, and they were always off and on, in middle school, during period changes the hallways were always filled with 4 minutes of whispering and chaos of drama between them.
Well, LONG story, both couples broke up 2 weeks after my birthday. LOL. Anyway, this is where it gets more juicy than the spread of people magazine. Get ready to sink your teeth into your lips. We swapped romantic interests. However at the time me and my friend did not hangout anymore. But it was weird ya know? The weirdest thing was, I hooked up with this girl already freshman year of high school, and my girl had talked to my friend in the past. So i guess you can say we were in a love square lol.
This little fling of mine lasted about 3 weeks, before we both decided to end it. She got back with her EX easily.. but me, it was a long egregious process. After an extremely long month and half of trying to amend the bridges burned (I was kind of DB to my EX when I was flinging with the other) I finally succeeding in wooing my ex girl back to me.
I won't deny, the entire process was very uncomfortable.. every last detail and little motion. EVEN till this day, writing this I am uncomfortable, but the best thing to do about insecurities and things we are uncomfortable about is to share them. Once everyone knows, you no longer are hiding it and can no longer feel like you should.
(DESPITE THIS PARAGRAPH^^^^^^^ MY DISCLAIMER STILL APPLIES STRICTLY)
Just to finish this love story, me and my girl from high school are still together, and have been ever since I got her back to me in this story. It will be our 4th year on December 29.
Tuesday, April 4, 2017
Technology Takeover
*1960's*
[Phone Ringing]
"Honey can you get the phone" - wife
"Of course sweetie" - Husband
*Husband picks up phone and begins with a clean and crisp, "Hello, may I ask who is speaking?"
Notice how this seems as though a normal scenario to explain, however the husband in this scenario picked up the phone to talk to whomever was calling despite not knowing who is talking. What I am getting at is, due to the advancement of technology our society is changing in the way we speak to each other, and the decisions we make on when to communicate with certain people. Take the same scenario as above and impliment it into reality in today's world, and you will see exactly what I am honing in on.
*Present day*
[iPhone Ringing]
"Honey who is calling my cell?" - wife
"Your sister Ashley, want me to pick it up?" - husband
"No that bitch has been nasty to me all week, let it ring."- wife
This small difference in both scenarios is an example of a larger issue. Technology such as caller id, is not in any way bad, it just changed the way we communicated. Technology as a whole has been rapidly expanding and growing to new depths, and revolutionizing our society along the way. Nowadays the younger generations are using social media more and more. This may not seem like a bad thing, and it is not, but the internet and social media has created a space for people to present themselves to the world in the way they want to be seen. While this is a truly fascinating thing, which I encourage to only expand more and more, it has created a gap in living in the moment and experiencing life to the fullest. Constantly having our phones buzzing with notifications, emails, texts, phone calls, instagram notifications, snapchats, it all takes it toll.
In my own experiences, I have noticed a more heavy use of social media since I have arrived in college. I love social media such as Instagram, snapchat, and facebook, and I would find it extremely hard to live without them. It is almost as giving up an image of yourself, your online social interactions are an external self image of yourself. The problem with this however is, we put ourselves out there for everyone to see, whether or not we want people to see it, once it is out there it is out there for good no matter how strong your password is and whether or not your accounts are private.
The problem with all of this, is people are beginning to become obsessed with their social media, and the self image they portray on such sites. No longer, can you go out and expect none of your friends to tweet, snapchat, facebook, or instagram about it. Not saying this is bad, but it is becoming a norm. In my own experiences, I have witnessed people and admittedly myself sometimes, put something out on social media that I am doing something, when I am really not, just to boost my image on social media so I seem cooler, or in the loop more than I actually am. This poses a scary portrait, with future generations who are growing up with these social media sites.
Will internet self image, become more important than actual real life self images? These are the questions that our current technological takeover society puts before us.
[Phone Ringing]
"Honey can you get the phone" - wife
"Of course sweetie" - Husband
*Husband picks up phone and begins with a clean and crisp, "Hello, may I ask who is speaking?"
Notice how this seems as though a normal scenario to explain, however the husband in this scenario picked up the phone to talk to whomever was calling despite not knowing who is talking. What I am getting at is, due to the advancement of technology our society is changing in the way we speak to each other, and the decisions we make on when to communicate with certain people. Take the same scenario as above and impliment it into reality in today's world, and you will see exactly what I am honing in on.
*Present day*
[iPhone Ringing]
"Honey who is calling my cell?" - wife
"Your sister Ashley, want me to pick it up?" - husband
"No that bitch has been nasty to me all week, let it ring."- wife
This small difference in both scenarios is an example of a larger issue. Technology such as caller id, is not in any way bad, it just changed the way we communicated. Technology as a whole has been rapidly expanding and growing to new depths, and revolutionizing our society along the way. Nowadays the younger generations are using social media more and more. This may not seem like a bad thing, and it is not, but the internet and social media has created a space for people to present themselves to the world in the way they want to be seen. While this is a truly fascinating thing, which I encourage to only expand more and more, it has created a gap in living in the moment and experiencing life to the fullest. Constantly having our phones buzzing with notifications, emails, texts, phone calls, instagram notifications, snapchats, it all takes it toll. In my own experiences, I have noticed a more heavy use of social media since I have arrived in college. I love social media such as Instagram, snapchat, and facebook, and I would find it extremely hard to live without them. It is almost as giving up an image of yourself, your online social interactions are an external self image of yourself. The problem with this however is, we put ourselves out there for everyone to see, whether or not we want people to see it, once it is out there it is out there for good no matter how strong your password is and whether or not your accounts are private.
The problem with all of this, is people are beginning to become obsessed with their social media, and the self image they portray on such sites. No longer, can you go out and expect none of your friends to tweet, snapchat, facebook, or instagram about it. Not saying this is bad, but it is becoming a norm. In my own experiences, I have witnessed people and admittedly myself sometimes, put something out on social media that I am doing something, when I am really not, just to boost my image on social media so I seem cooler, or in the loop more than I actually am. This poses a scary portrait, with future generations who are growing up with these social media sites.
Will internet self image, become more important than actual real life self images? These are the questions that our current technological takeover society puts before us.
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